The Alternative to Tragedy

There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung & possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keep it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies & little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket—safe, dark, motionless, airless--it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy or at least the risk of tragedy, is damnation.

From "The Four Loves" by Clive Staples Lewis

Here is a good article from the Gospel Coalition.
Here is the quote illustrated from Zen Pencils.


Biblical Love

Too many times I equate love with a feeling.  It is a feeling, but it is more than just a feeling.  It is also a choice.  An act of the will.  A good reminder of this from Henrichsen:
Most English dictionaries define love as an emotion.  Biblical love emphasizes the will; "I command you to love."  "Husbands, love your wives." (Ephesians 5:25)  Biblical love is an imperative.  Your love for God requires your exercising will in the direction of being a student of His ways.

From Thoughts From the Diary of a Desperate Man by Walter A. Henrichsen


Éros vs. Agápe

There are multiple words for love in ancient Greek.  Here are definitions of two of those words and a good quote from "Thoughts from the Diary of a Desperate Man."

Éros consumes like a fire. Love at first sight. It's passionate , erotic, sensual, pure emotion and no logic. Éros does not appear in the Bible.

Agápe is unconditional love. Sacrificial and selfless, like the love a parent has for its child.  Henrichsen points out that you must know someone to agápe them.  Agápe is used in 1 Corinthians 13: 1-13 (the love chapter).

Knowledge is the enemy of éros, the friend of agápe. Éros thrives in the imagination and wilts in the light of reality. Deep significant love takes time. It is the product of knowing. Éros uses people to satisfy its own appetite. Agápe freely spends in service for others. You agápe others and only look to God for your needs, but if you look to them rather than God you will anger your Lord and damage your relationship with them.  
 –Walter A. Henrichsen